The grieving brother stood for a long period, shaking at times, until finally he gathered himself and then shared his most profound statement. “It’s hard for me to get this out…”
I don’t know what it is with microphones but they seem to have an amazing power over people! Here’s a theory of mine… you may have an answer or possibly be interested in talking further.
So many times at funerals I facilitate grieving relatives or friends coming to the microphone, prepared to speak, even with a [...]
All of the children, and there were seven, had been denied access to their father. Not their choice, but one of an aging man, struggling with a painful past and complications of self-medication – alcohol! In fact his medical records declared, no family on record.
It was only in the last year, with a chance meeting [...]
The retirement village rarely had farewell ceremonies but Stan was such an active part of this relatively new community. He was responsible for either instigating or supporting numerous events that helped build a true camaraderie amongst the residents.
With Stan’s departure, Dot, his more fragile and private wife, wanted to honour him by preparing a farewell [...]
So often the organisational gathering to prepare a farewell service is functional and objective, creating and then dotting the ‘i’s and crossing ‘t’s. Yes, this is important, but there is often a whole other process going on that I dare to talk about.
Many times I’ve found the people gathered move into a thankful and positive [...]
When I attend or conduct a funeral I listen carefully. Not during or after, but before. I study the connections between people, the degree of intimacy, the depth of love shared, the warmth or otherwise displayed between family members and their friends.
“It just seems a thick fog is over me and I can hardly breath…” Have you ever uttered these words?
Normally she wouldn’t dare, but Tess, wife of the deceased, had to share the nickname the family had given me – Bruce Almighty. The family already had a Bruce, and to save confusion, I was given the ‘Almighty’ tag.
Yes, I can cope with the name. But what really got my attention was the timing of [...]
Monday morning in the open air… Friday afternoon at the Great Hall… death touches ALL!
To my surprise the deceased wife and mother-in-law walked slowly forward and spent their own private moment together, letting their heart pour out their love, their loss, their grief at this unexpected departure.