They say that, “…funerals and weddings bring out the best and worst in people”, that secrets and true intentions are revealed. Well, my time as a funeral celebrant has certainly confirmed this saying.
I have sat at many a kitchen table and listened to families share stories of their loved one, sometimes with great love and respect. And at other times, the words not spoken, the spaces between the lines scream loudly of other things, of lies, conceit and despair.
So what should you do when a death reveals all, when misfortune and untruth is finally brought to the surface? You are merely presented with more of the truth.
Time will see the best and the worst, of emotion, of pain, of joy and bliss.
My suggestion: Allow the best and worst to speak. They have made up the fabric of life thus far, and this moment in time, with your loved one passing, gives you a choice, an opportunity to change, to head in a different direction and embrace a new reality!